My Self-Educated Tips on How to Spot a Life Leech

Is there a leech in your life sucking you dry?

Energy is all around us, constantly moving in various directions, pushing and pulling, rising and falling, and carrying us in all sorts of unpredictable directions. We can never control it, so the best that we can hope for, if you're dedicated, is to channel it to our will. Although this is a very possible feat, some people are aware of it, less people are interested in it, and only a few are willing to attempt to try. Unfortunately, out of the small percentage that are willing to attempt to channel it, their intentions are not always well-intended. In my experiences, the people who misuse their energy are always looking to steal someone else's to replenish their own.

Energy is abundant, but it's not limitless when it comes to us individuals. It is finite and should be protected AT ALL TIMES. Have you ever tried to get in a good workout after you've given all of your energy to the stressors of the day? Without a pre-workout drink? With lack of sleep? Even if you did push yourself, there's a good chance you'll do more harm than good.

Lack of energy equals lack of will, lack of strength, and, in turn, lack of life. Someone with constant low energy needs to survive, just like anyone else. The difference is that they will resort to taking YOUR ENERGY in order to keep surviving. They will NOT be conservative with the amount that they steal, willing to leave you with nothing for yourself to strive on. And when they're done with your energy, they will need another source to steal from. Don't let this be your fate. Do NOT get caught in the demonic cycle.

I'm nowhere near an expert, but I have a few life experiences that I can vouch for. Here's the list that of questions you should ask yourself that I've constructed so far:

1. Have they made anyone better? If there is one observation that I would have to place at number one, it would be this. You will have to do a little bit of investigative work, but it will pay off tremendously. Anyone who steals your energy habitually will have the evidence to back it up. They will have a trail of burnt-out individuals who have become shadows of their former selves after experiencing their negativity. You would be doing your due diligence to inquire about the last five human beings that they have had their closest relationships with (spouse, family, coworkers, etc.). If none of these individuals are actually elevating in life or moving in a positive direction after having experienced the person in question, then you may want to be kind to yourself and not become another victim on their list.

2. Do they have positive habits?  Human beings are creatures of habit. Anything we do consistently, we are. The truth of the matter is that we are all relegated to the same laws of majority rules. Every day we are either getting stronger or weaker, rising or falling, coming or going. When dealing with daily averages, it's best to study if someone has more positive or negative traits. Nobody is perfect, but when you've determined that someone you know is more negative within their own space than positive, their negative energy has the potential to corrupt your positive energy, which is another way to leech off your spirit.

3. Are they generous with their time/energy? We all have the same 24 hours within a day. How we prioritize that day depends largely on our values. People who are generous with their time and energy do so with the people they value the most. Generous people don't only give their money away, but something more precious to them, their time. Anyone that values themselves don't give their time away to just anyone, but leeches won't spend time unless they benefit at your expense. If you find yourself in a pattern with someone that only spends time with you but refuses to invest in you within that time, is a succubus in disguise.

4. What's their level of secrecy/secretiveness? Everyone has secrets. We all have a right to privacy to keep those secrets, which is why boundaries are necessary. Although, someone with too many secrets can be masquerading as a puppeteer behind the scenes of a play that you don't even know you're involved in. Anyone with too many secrets runs the risk of involving you in their drama, which for some reason, they maintain in abundance. If you've ever found yourself in a situation in which the person you're with puts you in a situation, then chooses to confess when you're past the point of no return, then let go of them immediately. Consider yourself lucky if the situation didn't hold you back, but don't take it for granted. People like these go unnoticed if unchecked like diabetes or high blood pressure. There's a reason why the medical field refers to high blood pressure as "the silent killer!"

5. Whose accomplishments do they celebrate? This point took some time for me to observe but...Image Matters. Who someone champions is who they model their efforts after. You may not always admire who someone else follows, but there's always a pattern to who someone connects their spirit to. Take a close look at the people that you look up to admire. is their character questionable? Do they lack discipline or integrity? Are they celebrated for being degenerative? If these are some of the traits that someone who's close to you celebrates in their heroes, they most likely are playing the villain.

One thing about health and fitness is that you will see that it is related to life in general. Physical fitness increases mental fitness, there's no way around it. One cannot function to maximum capacity without the other. In order to stay on track with your fitness goals, you must eliminate distractions. This is one of the deadliest distractions to your journey. A leech can derail your progress inevitably. Use these tools to spot the warning signs. The less obstacles make an easier pathway to your success. Do all you can to #keeppushin!